What to write in a sympathy card
A sympathy message can be simple. Acknowledge the loss, express your care, and leave room for the person’s experience. You do not have to find words that explain or fix grief.
A short condolence message
I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family, and sending you love.
When you knew the person who died
I will always remember [Name]’s kindness and the way they made everyone feel welcome. I am grateful to have known them, and I am thinking of you.
When you did not know them personally
I am so sorry to hear about your [relationship]. I know they meant so much to you. Please know that I am thinking of you and your family.
For a colleague
I was so sorry to hear about your loss. Wishing you and your family comfort, and thinking of you during this difficult time.
Offer help you can follow through on
If appropriate, offer something specific: dropping off a meal, taking care of an errand or making time to listen. Avoid promising anything you cannot do. You can write “No need to reply” if you want to remove pressure to respond.
What to leave out
Avoid comparisons with your own loss, explanations for why the death happened, or instructions to be strong. Use religious wording only when you know it will feel welcome to the recipient.
Adding words to a printed sympathy card
Read the printed sentiment first. A name, a memory or one caring sentence can make it personal without repeating the whole verse. C2U wildflower sympathy cards list a printed verse, five floral designs, envelopes and stickers in a 20-card set.
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